Look out soccer moms, there is new competition in town! Who’s the latest supermom on the scene? It’s All Natural Crunchy Wonder Mom! This mom does it all, she’s a power house of do-it-yourself and can make an award winning birthday cake with a whole coconut and a honeycomb, while breast feeding and knocking out a Cross Fit WOD. With her eyes closed.
Okay, that was a bit over dramatic but I think I’ve made my point. I was chatting with a friend on the phone the other day and she was remarking how daunting the task of detoxing her family’s life was. She felt like no matter what she did, there was always more to do. I’ve been there, done that and then I got over it. I admit, I still get discouraged when I read about a new “danger” that exists in our polluted world. In the effort to become healthier and live a more whole life I have researched, eliminated chemicals and processed foods, ditched my microwave and have taken precautions to use non-toxic everything (when available). I think I’ve done pretty well; I have some friends who have done pretty well too. There is definitely a big movement for more healthful living, and social media has reached millions of people to recruit them to the ways of au natural living. But with this empowered knowledge, the Pinterest recipes: Paleo, GAPS, Primal, WAPF, and WTF (okay, WTF isn’t really a diet…), comes the obsessive compulsion to do things better. Here is a conversation that I overheard between two mamas enjoying a juice from the local co-op.
Mama #1: So, I made Marcus some cupcakes. They were beautiful and made from nut flour and coconut sugar. I used that XYZ organic almond flour. They tasted fantastic too.
Mama #2: Oh really? We don’t use pre-made flours of any type. I made Riley a unicorn cake. Mmhmmm. Made my own flour out of raw almonds. We don’t buy pre-packaged, pre-made organic stuff even if it’s BPA free and non-GMO. And I don’t use coconut sugar; I just harvested raw honey from my bees and made the frosting then tinted it with beets and spinach from my garden.
Mama #1: Oh wow, I didn’t think of using the pre-packaged flour. And shoot, I just used the natural food coloring that I bought here at the co-op. But I don’t know how I would have time to do all that and work and homeschool and make it to Cross Fit and blog and…
Mama #2: It’s really about priority. If you really care you will make it happen. I just did a 40 day water detox and I swear I only had to sleep 3 hours a night; it makes you so much more productive.
Okay, so this wasn’t the exact conversation but it’s a pretty good representation. Today’s healthy living has been taken to all new heights and is creating an all new level of pressure on moms to do it all or feel lazy.
I just want to throw this out there; no one and I mean no one can do it all. We live in a world where there is dirty electricity everywhere, there is air pollution and even our rain water needs to be filtered. Do what you can, when you can and how you can. Every little bit helps. Does it take more effort? Yes, it does. Is someone going to be crunchier than you? Probably. But if your kids aren’t tearing open a box of High-Fructose Corn Syrup Puffs for breakfast every morning and sucking down microwaved plastic containers of mac n cheese every night then you are doing a good job. Make your changes in baby steps. Pick one thing and eliminate it. After you don’t notice that difference anymore, pick another and another. I set myself a goal of a year to detox my home as much as I practically can. I also made a goal of eating only local, organic, sustainably farmed foods as much as I practically can. This feels like great accomplishment, and any accomplishments that you make in the right direction is a great start. Comparison can be a dangerous thing, remember why you are making the choices that you are making. Don’t do it because Mildred next store is trying to win the award of Ultra Crunchy Super Mom of the Year. Do it because you want a change and don’t be discouraged. And relax (in a bath of Epsom salts, if you have them :-)). ~Carmen
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